I can’t read minds, all I can do is trust a person’s words and ask for clarification if I’m unsure of my interpretation. Evidence of trustworthiness is valuable to recognize. I don’t have to trust everyone all the time, but it’s unsustainable to never trust anyone. There are many different levels of trust, a small … Continue reading You Can Actually Trust These 15 Affirmations About Trust
Uncountable, unfathomable, unimaginable, insurmountable, I cannot inventory this lifespan. Seated in glory, never damn the molted skins sloughed, succeeded—
[CW: CSA] Children are influenced by the subtle and loud alike. Most adults are aware of this powerful adaptive energy, the vulnerability of such malleability, and some use it to their sickening advantage. Children don’t understand. Without their own experience of the world, children are heavily influenced by their guardians and caretakers. Parents, relatives, teachers, … Continue reading Grooming
[CW: CSA] I protect myself under layers of analysis and resolution, thickly padded thoughts processing everything the raw core of myself spits out. Sometimes the original material has been recycled and repackaged before it gets to my conscious self. Writing helps understand the workings of this protective system so I may be aware of the … Continue reading Why I Write .3
The act of struggle has been taught to abandon gratitude, crisis informs us we cannot afford to be thankful. How can I possible accept my current situation? Wouldn’t that make me complacent? But I already was complacent with struggle, resigned. I was fearful of gratitude. To accept the gifts of life, I would need to … Continue reading Gratitude, a Foundation
We all have different stories, tragedies, little secrets that become big that become destigmatization if they cease being secret, but if we’ve lived with trauma for a significant amount of time (especially childhood trauma) we may not notice how big of an impact they‘be had on our lives. Our personalities and behaviours have adopted trauma … Continue reading Recognizing Trauma Responses
You and I must remain protective and nurturing of our growth and healing. Prioritization is at times genuinely agonizing, the worst of most growing pains, because the way we prioritize is influenced by our very core, so to change, we must change our most inner structures. Consistency in our dedication to our development is not … Continue reading “Draw a Sacred Circle Around Your Recovery”
We’ve all at one point been tinkerbell begging for believers. Feeling alone, our truths discarded, we grasp for scant glimmers of faith. We’re sustained on our own truth and the morsels of validation we find in far reaching corners of life. I have been this desperate beast so often that I forget it’s not me— … Continue reading Being Kooky: Friday 13th a Child is Born
Trauma, fear, our experiences can give contextual power to any object we have encountered before. An article of clothing, a certain scent, an everyday household item, so unassuming and yet when tied to a particular memory, to us and our instincts they become anything but harmless. CW: references to abuse and sexual violence Most people … Continue reading PTSD and the Ordinary Object
Media such as movies, books, tv shows, comics, etc, with characters and storytelling are often safer ways for neurodivergent people to experience the world, learn. We’re given moral lessons and understanding of how different people express and cope with emotions, but the consumption is regulated and handpicked by us. Our special interests are appealed or … Continue reading Feeling Through Media: Autism and Trauma
Sustaining Practice 