Our behaviour, dress, habits, these are born of reactions in our inner world. Our self perception and realm of authenticity is influenced and expressed by a set of external symbols— representations of more complex subjects. Eye contact is symbolic, wearing jewelry is symbolic, our accent, inflections, our routine, our addictions, these outwardly simple expressions reference … Continue reading Symbols of Presentation
Love is a potent experience of positive attachment. It is an intensity of being. A bond, a state, an emotion, a thought, an instinct, and much more, affection encompasses many ‘metaphysical substances’. It is a substance which fills these intangible but descriptive nouns, these words which become vessels for love to exist within. It is … Continue reading The Substantial Presence of Love
My restraining order against her has been expired for years and I don’t need another one, yet she still haunts my life and fosters discouragement within me. How to rebuke discouragement? Are we driven by praise? Pride? Regret? Why keep trying? What is discouragement? Perhaps a mild paranoia, a sense of shame, embarrassment— cures are … Continue reading Encouraged (Isolation)
There is no right time to rest, our bodies tell us. We’ve been taught to ignore our needs for the sake of being ‘productive’. The value is placed upon what we can offer a capitalist system-- it’s time to un-normalize the exploitation of people who need rest the most. Responsibility falls upon all of us … Continue reading Talking About Resting
Respect yourself and others, stand tall. Others will misconstrue these values as being combative purely by nature of how radical it is to love yourself, to believe in yourself. No one expects someone to stick to what they value. Do no wrong to others but don’t accept the wrong they do to you. We all … Continue reading Stand Tall
You’re telling someone about a trauma, the person you’re speaking to didn’t know it occurred and maybe was in your life at the time it happened. You worry they might feel guilty or extrapolate that you blame them. Here are some tips to keeping the conversational flow and giving subtle assurance without spending your energy … Continue reading Having the Difficult Conversations
No one is good, wise, or otherwise aware, if they are not good to others. A person won’t heal if they don’t care about the healing of others. Empathy is a skill that can be practiced and learning to be wrong, and learning to learn, is the only way forward in our development as people. … Continue reading Caring About Others
I struggle to have fun on my own. I’m capable, but as experiences are better when I’m with my fiancé, why bother? The answer is because I’m my own person and taking time to have enjoyable moments just with myself is a part of growing and healing as a whole person. Codependency takes many different … Continue reading Learning to Be Happy Alone
The best is what helps and heals all. Words and actions aligned still will not save the world without awareness of what the world needs. Practicing empathy skills, understanding that your experience is not every experience, and developing self awareness— we need to put the work into our own lives to inspire these changes in … Continue reading Working Toward the Best
Love has allowed me to wholly trust. Anything that shakes my faith has come to build it sturdier than ever. I’m not left without. I don’t lack in security, comfort, support, or commitment from my fiancé. I trust them because they’ve shown me I can, they’ve proven time and time again that we’re on a … Continue reading I Trust
Sustaining Practice 